How to Annoy a Narcissist

Give it a Go

2007-10-13T14:01:00.000-07:00

You miss 100% of the shots you never take

by Tada

If you're in any type of relationship with a narcissist then GET OUT!

Narcissistic Personality Disorder, pathological narcissism, malignant narcissism will get worse and you will be the target.

You need a safety plan.

Safety plans should be made with the aid of trained domestic violence professionals.

Contact the the National Domestic Violence Hotline, your state and local domestic violence coalition, or another such program in your region.

Don't wait for tomorrow too long. You will run out of tomorrows.

The More The Merrier

2007-10-07T05:19:00.000-07:00

There Is No "I" In Team

by Tada

Together

Each

Achieves

More

. . . values the collaboration of individuals

"Collaboration of Individuals" . . . and there is what you need to protect yourself.

You do need a team to survive this.

Your team members are the family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, agencies, and others who each have one thing to offer, contribute, and share on a rainy day; and it's raining.

Remember that your N fooled you; your N can fool them. N's are experts at deception and manipulation. Being your usual, rational self is one of your many assets. If people you know and love begin to fall under the N's spell, be your true self and let it help to shake them out of it.

Isolating you adds to the N's sense of power and success. Don't let your N do it any more.

Keeping up with many lies to many people is a lot of work for your N. The more people and agencies involved on a semi-regular basis, the more work your N has to do and the more opportunities for people to spot your N in a lie.

Success Is The Best Revenge

2007-09-30T06:25:00.000-07:00

Flaunt It If You've Got It

by Tada

Many sources on NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, will tell you of the narcissist's thirst for admiration and attention, and that they are jealous of their partner's accomplishments.

If you've reached the point where hiding your success, cheering and supporting your malignant-N, and smilingly tolerating verbal and emotional abuse only leads to escalating physical abuse, then it's time to flaunt it if you've got it. This does not mean you should gloat. This means you should stop hiding the great things you do.

People need to see the great person you are. Only then will they see the hypocrisy of your N. As long as you are trying anything to keep the peace and placate your N, your actions (and inactions) match the lies your N tells to slander your (no longer good) name. You need to show the world the real you so they can figure out the real N in your life.

Actions do speak louder than words.

Unlevel Battlefield

2007-09-28T18:21:00.000-07:00

This Means War

by Tada

You Vs. The Narcissist that is Fixated on You

One On One?

NO.

You vs. this person who has spent a lifetime lying, manipulating and twisting things and people to serve narcissistic obsessions.

Ready or not, you are in a battle; the field is not level, and it's in the narcissist's favor.

If you are surrounded by people who know you and see you as the honest, simple person you've always been, they will either fall under the narcissist's manipulative spells or they'll run for cover to protect themselves from the narcissist's wrath.

Why not just toss it in and walk away from the obsessive narcissist? Because that narcissist is obsessed and fixated on you. Even your "giving up" is not enough victory for the narcissist.

What are you to do?

You'll need to start learning to do battle, and learn quickly.

All your years of mild passivity will not serve you well in this case. This problem will not go away; so be armed and be ready.

In The Beginning

2007-09-28T15:52:00.000-07:00

The following article, Narcissus, is reprinted here from Encyclopedia Mythica Online.

Narcissus

by Morgan Upright

Narcissus is another example among several of a beautiful young man who spurned sex and died as a result. As such, his myth has much in common with those of Adonis and Hippolytus. In the Roman poet Ovid's retelling of the myth, Narcissus is the son of the river god Cephissus Liriope. Tiresias, the seer, told his parents that the child "would live to an old age if it did not look at itself." Many nymphs and girls fell in love with him but he rejected them. One of these nymphs, Echo, was so distraught over this rejection that she withdrew into a lonely spot and faded until all that was left was a plaintive whisper. The goddess Nemesis and the nymph heard the rejected girls prayers for vengeance and arranged for Narcissus to fall in love with his own reflection. He stayed watching his reflection and let himself die. It is quite possible, however, that the connection between Echo and Narcissus was entirely Ovid's own invention, for there is no earlier witness to it.

An important and earlier variation of this tale originates in the region in Greek known as Boeotia (to the north and west of Athens). Narcissus lived in the city of Thespiae. A young man, Ameinias, was in love with Narcissus, but he rejected Ameinias' love. He grew tired of Ameinias' affections and sent him a present of a sword. Ameinias killed himself with the sword in front of Narcissus' door and as he died, he called curses upon Narcissus. One day Narcissus fell in love with his own reflection in a spring and, in desperation, killed himself.

Both of these stories give an origin to the narcissus flower, which grew where Narcissus died.

Narcissus is reprinted here from Encyclopedia Mythica Online.